Identify Yourself: Who Are You And What Is Your Purpose

As a child we are defined by our family and friends. This is a time of shaping though positive and negative experiences all of which are understood by your perceptions. We come into this world with a blueprint of skills, a certain level of awareness, and lessons to learn in hopes of connecting with our higher selves to eventually not have to continue the cycles of death and rebirth; atleast not in the traditional sense. We will never be finished with the cycles of letting go to make room for the new. This is life, learning, and growing. To have no life would be to have merged with the unknowable. Before this, there is much to do and much to be joyful about.

I consider myself blessed because even though I had divorced parents, they gave me a balanced upbringing complete with guidance, support, and love. My mother was the daily caregiver who worked a blue collar job to provide for my sister and I. My father was the weekend Dad who diligently paid child support and showed us what life as a white collar was.

My mother gave us stability and room to dream. Anything was possible. She worked hard at a physical, high intensity job to make sure we had a nice home, clothes, and food. Not to mention her favorite pass time was to go out to eat and shop for us. She taught us to enjoy what we have when its here and to be at peace when it wasn't. Being happy to just be was my mom's life, no wants, no big dreams, just to find joy in every day.

My dad was the philosopher and psychologist. He would listen to our stories from the previous weeks and offer insight. Clarity was easy for him since he was removed from our daily home environment. "We make life complicated. Life isn't complicated", was and still is his favorite saying. Planning, strategy, and ownership were ways to get what your heart desired. Many times had he lived by example; always changing and rewriting his life. Each life choice took him to a more refined goal or dream.

I have merged these two life approaches and added my own touches. My childhood was full of situations and events that pushed me beyond "I" and "me". Instead of feeding on drama I chose to look for meaning and understanding. We have a choice in how we see our world. Grow or stay in the victim cycle. Its your choice. Know that you are the only one that decides how the world around you affects you. See the positive and live the positive. See the negative and live the negative. Our outer lives are a reflection of our inner lives.

It sounds so simple and it is. We just need to learn to use our emotions as triggers for change instead of letting them drag us through life. They are gifts for us to navigate our lives, to keep us on track. Fear, shame, guilt, sadness, lies, illusion, and ignorance are not our natural states of being. These are indicators that require us to reflect. Only in the quiet moments can we connect with our higher selves and be able to use this information to adjust our lives. Keep only what is beneficial. Discard what does not resonate.

We are given chances to listen to whispered lessons. If we do not connect these obstacles then the whispers become sickness, accidents, life dramas, and tragic events. You owe it to yourself to keep yourself secure, receptive, empowered, loved, use creative expression, cultivate knowlege and a spirituality. This is a necessary foundation for allowing you to make the best choices for what stays and what must go.

Please know that no matter where we are in life, peace has to be made in the moment. In acceptance we can move forward with progress. What used to be beneficial may not be now. What at one time was not usefull, may be at this point. This is an endless cycle of release and receive. Everything in its time and place. The only thing that is constant is change. Why not embrace it and have some say in how that change will effect you?